Everyone my age is under immense pressure. In the age of the internet, we are under more stress than ever from friends and relatives to act and perform the way they expect us to. This has spawned an entire generation of people who suffer from mental health problems, struggle with work/life balance, and often fail to confront their problems except through relatable tweets and memes.
Often times, social media only compounds this problem. The constant scrolling through the endless feeds on endless platforms of posts and pictures from friends and celebrities often leads to unhealthy expectations and insecurities. We've all been there.
Last year, I made a promise to myself to choose happiness. I traded my Wall Street aspirations for a chance to pursue my passion in real estate. I traded my plans to move to New York City for a house in the sunshine state. I traded my need for outside gratification for my own self-satisfaction. I chose happiness.
I can help you do the same.
Take a moment to think through who you are keeping as a role model. Who do you idolize? What makes them so special? Are you holding yourself to an unattainable standard?
Whose opinion are you asking for before making choices? Why do you value what they say? Are these people serving themselves with their responses?
What path are you on? Are you working toward something? What makes that your goal? Is it something you really want? Why?
It's okay to not know the answer to some of these questions. I don't pretend to know the answer to a lot of these, but I am trying every day to get closer.
If you aren't ready to tackle some of these topics, but want to make a tangible change in your life, go through your instagram and Facebook and question who you are following. Having celebrities on your feed is a fun way to keep up with pop culture, but I find that keeping them around gives me nothing but anxiety. I don't block them and can still look up their profiles if I want the latest drama, but I don't give the negative thoughts a free opportunity to jump in my head every time I risk refreshing my feed.
I'd be lying if I said the transition was easy. It was full of difficult transitions, hard conversations, judgement from those whose opinion I no longer held highly, and a hell of a lot of faith in my own ability to persevere. But the fact is, it put me in a better place now and for my future. I no longer had the instant gratification of short-term problem solving. Instead I had something so much better: my own happiness. Best of all, this is something I chose. I worked for it. I have the scars and memories to prove it.
I'm sorry to have a sappy post this week, but putting my own happiness above everything else has really transformed my life. I hope that reading this post has helped at least one person at least make sure that they are on the right path or make some changes. If that person was you or if you want to talk about your journey/experience, feel free to send me an instagram message (maybe while you unfollow all of those toxic accounts). Thanks for reading and don’t forget to escape for a minute to fly south.